Why Your Mindset Is Truly The Foundation Of Your Success…
Dr Joe Dispensa gives, what is in my opinion, the best explanation of why mastering your mindset is the key to improving every aspect of your life and creating true success and happiness…
A habit is a redundant set of automatic, unconscious thoughts, behaviours and emotions that’s acquired through repetition.
A habit is when you’ve done something so many times that your body now knows how to do it better than your mind.
If you think about it, people wake up in the morning, they begin to think about their problems, those problems are circuits, memories in the brain. Each one of those memories are connected to people
and things at certain times and places and if the brain is a record of the past, the moment they start their day they’re already thinking in the past.
Each one of those memories has an emotion.Emotions are the end product of past experiences. So the moment they recall those moments of their problems they all of a sudden feel unhappy, they feel sad, they feel pain.
Now how you think and how you feel creates your state of being so the person’s entire state of being when they start the day is in the past.
So what does that mean?
The familiar past will sooner or later be the predictable future.
So, if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with your destiny, and you can’t think greater then how you feel, or feelings have become the means of thinking by the very definition of emotions
you’re thinking in the past and for the most part you’re going to keep creating the same life.
So then people grab their cellphone,they check their WhatsApp, they check their text, they check their emails, they check Facebook, they take a picture of their feet, they post it on Facebook, they tweet something, they do instagram, they check the news and now they feel really connected to everything that’s known in their life.
And then they go through a series of routine behaviours.
They get out of the bed on the same side, they go to the toilet, they get a cup of coffee, they take a shower, they get dressed, they drive to work the same way, they do the same things, they see the same people, they push the same emotional buttons and that becomes the routine and it becomes like a program.
So now they lost their free will to a program and there’s no unseen hand doing it to them.
So when it comes time to change the redundancy of that cycle, becomes a subconscious program. So now 95% of who we are by the time we’re 35 years old, is a memorized set of behaviours, emotional reactions,unconscious habits, hardwired attitudes, beliefs and perceptions that function like a computer program.
So then a person can say within their 5% of their conscious mind: I want to be healthy. I want to be happy. I want to be free. But the body is on a whole different program.
So then how do you begin to make those changes?
Well, you have to get beyond the analytical mind because what separates the conscious mind from the subconscious mind is the analytical mind. And that’s where meditation comes in, because you can teach peoplethrough practice how to change their brainwaves, slow them down. And when they do that properly, they do enter the operating system
where they can begin to make
some really important changes.
So most people then wait for crisis or trauma or disease or diagnosis… they wait for loss, some tragedy to make up mind to change. And my message is why wait?
And you can learn change in a state of pain and suffering
or you can learn change in a state of joy and inspiration.
I think right now the cool thing is that people are waking up.
Tom Bilyeu: It’s really interesting.Where I found the deepest hooks and how powerful this can be for somebody… is when you’ve talked about trauma and you’ve talked about how people experience a traumatic event, but they then basically rehearse it. And how that then has this knockdown effect. So what is that, why do people find it so hard to get past trauma?
The stronger the emotional reaction you have to some experience in your life the higher the emotional quotient, the more you pay attention to the cause.
The moment the brain puts all of its attention on the cause, it takes a snapshot. That’s called a memory. So long term memories are created from very highly emotional experiences.
So what happens then is that people think neurologically within the circuitry of that experience and they feel chemically within the boundaries of those emotions.
So when you have an emotional reaction to someone or something… most people think that they can’t control their emotional reaction.
It turns out if you allow that emotional reaction it’s called a refractory period to last for hours or days, that’s called a mood. Say to someone Hey, whats up? I’m in a mood. Why are you in a mood? Well I had this thing happened to me 5 days ago and I’m having one long emotional reaction.
If you keep that same emotional reaction going on for weeks or months, that’s called temperament.
Why is he so bitter? I don’t know, let’s ask him, Why is he so bitter? Why are you bitter? Well I had this think happen to me 9 months ago.
And if you keep that same emotional reaction going on for years on end, that’s called a personality trait.
So learning how to shorten your refractory period of emotional reactions is really where the work starts.
So then people when they have an event what they do is they keep recalling the event because the emotions of stress hormones survival emotions are saying pay attention to what happened because you want to be prepared
if it happens again.
Turns out most people spend 70% of their life living in survival, and living in stress, so they’re always anticipating the worst case scenario based on a a past experience and they’re literally… out of the infinite potentials in the quantum field… they’re selecting the worst possible outcome and they’re beginning to emotionally embrace it with fear and they’re conditioning their body into a state of fear.
Do that enough times, the body has a panic attack without you, you can’t even predict it because it’s programmed subconsciously.
So then you say to the person Why are you this way? and they’ll say I am this way because of this event that happened to me 15 or 20 years ago. And what that means from a biological standpoint is that they haven’t been
able to change since that event.
So then the emotions from the experience tend to give the body and the brain a rush of energy. So people become addicted to the rush of those emotions
and they use the problems and conditions in their life to reaffirm their limitation so they can feel something.
So now when it comes time to change you say to the person: Why are you this way? Well every time they recall the event, they’re producing the same chemistry in their brain and body
as if the event is occurring. Firing and wiring the same circuits and sending the same emotional signal to the body. Whats the relevance behind that? Well your body is the unconscious mind… it doesn’t know the different between the experience that’s creating the emotion and the emotion that you’re creating by thought alone so the body is believing it’s living in the same past experience, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
So when those emotions influence certain thoughts, and they do, and then those thoughts create the same emotions and the same emotions influence the same thoughts, now the entire person’s state of being is in the past so then the hardest part about change is not making the same choices you did the day before, period.
The moment you decide to make a different choice: Get ready because it’s going to feel uncomfortable.
The bigger thing is that we keep firing and wiring those circuits, they become more hardwired so you have a thought and then the program runs. But it’s the emotion that follows the thought, if you have a fearful thought you’re going to feel anxiety. The moment you feel anxiety, your brain is checking in with your body and saying Yeah you’re pretty anxious. So then you start thinking more corresponding thoughts equal to how you feel. The redundancy of that cycle conditions the body to become the mind so now, when it comes time to change, a person steps into that river of change and they make a different choice all of a sudden they don’t feel the same way.
So the body says: You’ve been doing this for 35 years, you’re just going to stop feeling suffering and stop feeling guilty and stop feeling shameful? You’re not going to complain or blame or make excuses or feel sorry for yourself? The body is in the unknown. So the body says I want to return back to the familiar territory. So the body starts influencing the mind and it says: Start tomorrow. You’re too much like your mother. You’ll never change. This is not going to work for you. This doesn’t feel right. And so you respond to that thought as if its true that same thought will lead to the same choice, create the same behaviour, which will create the same experience, which produces the same emotion.
Tom Bilyeu: I want to talk about that notion of… give me a little more detail… what do you mean by the body becomes the mind or the unconscious mind? What do you mean by that exactly?
Those are 2 different things.
Your body IS your unconscious mind.
In a sense, if you’re sitting down and you start thinking about some future worst case scenario that you’re conjuring up in your mind and you begin to feel the emotion of that event, your body doesn’t know the difference between the event that’s taking place in your world and what you’re creating by emotional thought alone.
So most people then, they’re constantly reaffirming their emotional states. When it comes the time to give up that emotion they can say I really want to do it but really the body is stronger than the mind because it’s been conditioned that way. So the servant now has become the master and the person all of a sudden, once they step into that unknown they’d rather feel guilt and suffering, because at least they can predict it.
Being in the unknown is a scary place for most people because the unknown is uncertain.
People say to me Well I can’t predict my future. I’m in the unknown. I always say to them: The best way to predict your future is to create it. Not from the known, but from the unknown.
What thoughts do you want to fire and wire in your brain? What behaviours do you want
to demonstrate in one day?
The act of rehearsing them mentally, closing your eyes, rehearsing the action…
Tom Bilyeu: The rehearsing of the action of what you want?
Yes, the action of what you want.
By closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing some action. If you’re truly present, the brain does not know the difference between what you’re imaging and what you’re experiencing in 3D world.
So then you begin to install the neurological hardware in your brain to look like the event has already occurred. Now, the brain is no longer a record of the past, now it’s a map to the future. And if you keep doing it that way, the hardware becomes a software program and who knows, you just might start acting like a happy person.
And I think the hardest part is to teach our body emotionally. What the future will feel like ahead of the actual experience. So what does that mean?
-You can’t wait for your success to feel empowered.
-You can’t wait for your wealth to feel abundant.
-You can’t wait for your new relationship to feel love, or your healing to feel whole
I mean that’s the old model of reality… of cause and effect… Waiting for something outside of us to change how we feel inside of us. When we feel better inside of us we pay attention to whoever or whatever caused it. What that means then is that from the Newtonian world that most people spend their whole life living in lack, waiting for something to change out there.
Tom Bilyeu: What do you mean the Newtonian world?
The Newtonian world is all about the predictable. It’s all about predicting the future. But the quantum model of reality is about causing the effect.
The moment you start feeling abundant and worthy you’re generating wealth. The moment you’re empowered and feel it you’re beginning to step towards the success. The moment you start feeling whole your healing begins… and when you love yourself and you love all of life you’ll create an equal… now you’re causing an effect.
I think that’s the difference between living as a victim in the world saying: I am this way because of this person or that thing or this experience, they made me think and feel this way.
When you switch that around, you become a creator of your world and you start saying: My thinking and my feeling is changing an outcome in my life and now… that’s a whole different game. When we start believing more that we’re creators of reality.
Tom Bilyeu: So how do we go from: OK I have this negative emotion, it’s controlling my life it’s got me in this cycle of… I think about this emotion, which triggers a chemical reaction, which trains my body to feel that way, which makes it easier and more likely I will do it again and and so now I’m in this vicious cycle… (And I’m unconscious) And you said does your thinking create your environment or does your environment create your thinking which I thought its really really interesting. So how do we then go from that, like mechanistically to begin this visualzation process of something that’s empowering… it’s me in a different state it’s my future self… is it meditation? What does that look like?
If you’re not being defined by a vision of the future then you’re left with the old memories of the past and you will be predictable in your life.
And if you wake up in the morning and you’re not being defined by a vision of the future, as you see the same people and you go to the same places and you do the exact same thing at the exact same time, it’s no longer that your personality is creating your personal reality… now your personal reality is affecting creating your personality.
Your environment is really controlling how you think and feel, unconsciously. Because every person, every thing, every place, every experience has a neurological network in your brain. Every experience that you have
with every person produces an emotion.
So some people will use their boss to reaffirm their addiction to judgement. They’ll use their enemy to reaffirm their addiction to hatred. They’ll use their friends to
reaffirm their addiction to suffering. So now they need the outer world to feel something.
So to change, then, is to be greater than your environment, to be greater than the conditions in your world… and the environment is that seductive
So then why is meditation a tool? Well, let’s sit down, let’s close our eyes let’s disconnect from your outer environment. So if you’re seeing less things, it’s less stimulation going to your brain.
If you’re playing soft music or if you have earplugs in, less sensory information is coming to your brain so you’re disconnecting from your environment. If you can sit your body down and tell it to stay like an animal. Stay right here! I’m going to feed you when we’re done, you can get up and check your emails you can do all your texts, but right now you’re going to sit there and obey me.
So then when you do that properly, you’re not eating anything or smelling anything or tasting anything you’re not up experiencing and feeling anything you will have to agree with me that you’re being defined by a thought.
So when the body wants to go back to its emotional past, you become aware that your attention is on that emotion and where you place your attention
is where you place your energy you’re syphoning your energy out of the present moment into the past and you become aware of that and you settle your body back down in the present moment cause it’s saying Well its 8:00 you normally get upset cause you’re in traffic around this time and here you are sitting and you’re used to feeling anger and you’re off schedule… Oh it’s 11:00 and you usually check your emails and judge everybody well… your body is looking for that predictable chemical state.
Every time you become aware that you’re doing that and your body is craving those emotions and you settle it back down into the present moment, you’re telling the body it’s no longer the mind. That you’re the mind. And now your will is getting greater than the program.
And if you keep dong this over and over again it’s like training a stallion, or a dog that’s just going to say: I’m gonna sit.
And the moment that happens, when the body is no longer the mind, when it finally surrenders, there’s a liberation of energy. We go from particle to wave. From matter to energy. And we free ourselves from the chains
of those emotions that keep us in the familiar past and you’ve seen this thousands of times, in fact we can actually predict it now on a brain scan.